Romance isn’t dead. Not even close. However, if you’re like most people, it might be dead to you.
If you’re single and you’re looking for love, the way to find it is by dating. It’s the tried and tested way to open yourself up to endless possibilities. There’s nothing inherently wrong with having casual sex either, but ultimately we all want something more meaningful — and sex is just a part of that very big equation.
If you’ve been out of the dating game for a long time and need that little push, here are 7 great excuses to get your heart in a Fluttr:
1. Your days are filled with Netflix and pizza binging
You can substitute pizza and Netflix with a number of things, but you know what I mean.
Sure cooking dinner every single night can be tiring, but we all know those nights when the couch takes over our game. If you’re finding yourself choosing to be horizontal over getting out there IRL — it might be time to push yourself.
2. You’ve sworn off all human contact
Ok, maybe not ALL human contact.. but even introverted souls need human contact and stimulation in their lives (especially when it comes to love). If you’ve been avoiding your social life and everyone else, it’s time for a new approach.
3. You’re spending more time sexting than looking for the “one”
Now before you get offended, sexting is fun. It can be a great way to build intimacy and chemistry, as you figure out what makes your lover’s toes curl. But if you’re spending more time bandying about sexually explicit content than going on dates, then it might be worth asking yourself why? Sexting can backfire if you’re not putting that sexual energy into real-life dating.
4. Perhaps your boundaries are blurry
Some of us have a hard time setting limits with ourselves and others. We might go out of our way to make people feel comfortable or loved to keep from offending anyone. We might also go a little too far in the opposite direction. This can be a problem in romantic relationships, where every misunderstood text and every frustration could potentially mean something more serious down the line. If any of those are the case, it’s time to set some boundaries. If you don’t want to be in a monogamous relationship, you need to make that clear right off the bat. If you’re not ready to date, decide how long you plan to stay single, giving yourself boundaries is a great first step to introducing those with people we care most about. If you do want to date, but need some help getting back into the game, try a dating app you can trust (I hear Fluttr is amazing).
5. You’re spending more time worrying about what other people think of you than yourself
It’s easy to get wrapped up in the lives of others. While it’s important to be a loving and empathetic person, it’s also important for your own personal growth not to neglect yourself. Try taking a few hours a day doing things that you enjoy… preferably away from the screen.
6. You’ve stopped having fun
When was the last time you spontaneously bought new clothes or decided to try out a new restaurant? Life can’t be so serious all the time, and no amount of meditation is going to make you feel like a better person if you’re not enjoying what you’re doing, or who you are. Change can be a wonderful thing.
You don’t have to be looking for a relationship to date and you can do any of the above with yourself and on your own terms. You can’t grow as a person if you don’t try new things and learn and share your experiences with others. Dating is a great way of bringing someone along on this great ride we call life. So go get out there — you’ll be glad you did.
Want to make genuine connections with real, honest people? Download the Fluttr app and meet people you can connect with today.